A space to see each other, find your voice, and cultivate connection.
Meaningful partnership is a practice of presence and a bridge between two worlds. While our closest relationships are meant to be a harbor of safety, they are also the very places where our oldest defenses and deepest insecurities are triggered. We often find ourselves trapped in a "circular dance" — where the more one person pushes, the more the other withdraws.
Whether you are navigating a new commitment or have been walking together for decades, couples therapy provides a clearing to examine the story you have co-created and the roles you have been cast in. In this work, we move beyond the binary of "victim" and "perpetrator." I operate from a psychodynamic and systemic lens, believing that the relationship is a third entity that both people contribute to constantly.
Therapy for Couples
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• You are caught in a repetitive cycle of conflict where you both end up feeling misunderstood, invisible, or alone.
• A "part" of you takes over during arguments — shutting down, lashing out, or withdrawing — and you aren't sure how to find your way back to your Self.
• You feel a growing distance, struggling to balance the need for security with the desire for intimacy and play.
• Your individual histories or "protective" strategies are creating barriers to true, vulnerable connection.
• You are struggling to rebuild trust and emotional safety after a significant rupture.
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My approach is grounded in psychodynamic and somatic principles, as well as Intimacy from the Inside Out (IFIO) — an IFS-informed model designed to transform relational conflict into a pathway for healing. This work is centered on differentiation: the courageous ability to self-regulate and remain anchored in yourself while staying securely attached to your partner.
I provide a trauma-informed and gender-affirming space, welcoming all relationship structures — multicultural, queer, LGBTQI+, and heteronormative couples alike.
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• Track the Sequence — Map out the specific "dance" of your conflict, identifying triggers and the protective strategies that keep the cycle spinning.
• Practice Unblending — Create space between your Self and your reactive parts, allowing you to approach your partner with curiosity and calm.
• Engage in Courageous Communication — Practice speaking on behalf of your parts instead of from them, fostering a responsible and non-harmful way to share your truth.
• Identify Hopes and Fears — Look beneath the surface of the "fight" to understand what your protective parts are trying to achieve.
• Witness the Inner World — Through guided individual work, one partner turns inward while the other serves as a supportive witness.
"The quality of your relationships determines the quality of your life. But intimacy is not a place of arrival;it is a sensitive equilibrium that must be maintained through the courage to be honest and the willingness to see your own part in the dance." — Esther Perel
Give yourselves the chance to move beyond the familiar:
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Get in touch by filling out the contact form.
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We'll schedule a time to talk and make sure we're a good fit.
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Start therapy and begin to explore a new, more aligned way of relating.
I am here to help you bridge the gap back to one another.